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Bar chart of the share of men and women who shocked themselves during 15 minutes alone: about two-thirds of men and a quarter of women
🎲 PlayAges 9-12Mild

Thoughts or Zap?

For the grown-up · 30-second read

A famous experiment found many adults would rather shock themselves than sit and think for 15 minutes, and a later study suggests the real reason might be curiosity, which makes for a great test of your own table.

  • • Wilson and colleagues (Science, 2014) ran 11 studies and found people typically did not enjoy 6 to 15 minutes alone with only their thoughts.
  • • The famous shock result came from just 18 men and 24 women, so the exact percentages are rough.
  • • A 2016 study found people bored by watching the same 83-second clip for an hour gave themselves more shocks than people watching a neutral film, while sad viewers did not.
📖 Read this aloud · about 2 minutes

Would you rather sit alone with your thoughts for 15 minutes, or give yourself a small electric shock?

Easy choice? Let's find out.

You need: nothing. No phones, no snacks. About 5 minutes.

Rules: 1. Before you start, everyone secretly decides: if there were a button that gave a tiny zap, would you press it? 2. Everyone sits still, hands on the table, for 3 minutes. No talking, humming or tapping. Just think. 3. When the parent says stop, each person shares where their mind wandered. 4. Then everyone confesses: did you want that button?

THE REVEAL. In 2014, scientists left adults alone in a room for 15 minutes with only their thoughts and a button that gave a mild shock. Counting only people who had said they would pay money to avoid that shock, about two-thirds of the men and a quarter of the women pressed it anyway. One man pressed it 190 times!

The first explanation went in three steps. One: thinking with nothing to do feels surprisingly hard. Two: the brain craves something, anything, to happen. Three: even pain beats nothing.

But that study was small, only about 40 people. So in 2022 other scientists ran it again with about 250. Even more people zapped themselves, nearly 9 in 10. The twist? They picked strong shocks even when a gentle one was available, and even when helped to think happy thoughts. So maybe they weren't escaping their minds. Maybe they were just curious what the zap felt like.

So which were you: bored or curious?

🎯 Try it tonight

Round two: 2 more silent minutes, but this time each person picks one puzzle to think about, like how they'd spend a free day. Afterwards, compare: did having a plan for your thoughts make the time feel shorter?

💬 Talk about it
1About you

What did your mind do in the silence that surprised you?

2Think it through

Bored or curious? Design an experiment that could tell which made people press the button.

3Debate it

Should kids get more totally empty, bored time each week, even if it feels awful?